September was a weird month. A lot of things felt like they were in limbo and completely out of my control. Me, being me, HATED that lack of control. The entire month felt a bit like me trying to rock climb through a mudslide.
Pay off students loans
To start the month off strong, John was let go from his job on September 1st. We knew it was coming, his role was very project deadline-oriented, but had expected it to be a few months out. Luckily, he had been applying to other jobs already and had interviews lined up. Plus, they paid him generously for his time and gave him an extra month of health benefits. That week, he had two great interviews and the next week a company in Seattle offered him a job! It was amazing timing and honestly, it’s an incredible company (I’m more than a little jealous) but I went into a quiet, but full blown panic mode. John was a champ and helped clean the house and sold over $700 of his furniture projects, but it was a stressful time. I felt like I had hunched over to protect myself from being hit, only to never had been hit, and so I slowly, inch by inch, recovered.
Take myself on a date once a month
I don’t know if it was because of the damn wildfires (yes, they burned into the month of September! So. Gross.), or the kids heading back to school, or John’s furniture projects taking over the house, but I went into major nesting mode this month. It was tough to pry myself away from the house. So, I asked John to join me on my date. He was skeptical, and honestly our dinner at Seven Beef wasn’t even that good, but our wine before (ok, ok) AND after dinner at L’Oursin was incredible. I totally sold John on natural wine and it was such a cool neighborhood spot. I even got dressed up. It was such a fun night together and we even got home after 9!
Do something politically active once a month
It’s starting to feel like one thing after the other. It’s exhausting. I’ve had days where I don’t open up the newspaper because the news has been so overwhelmingly terrible and scary. I knew I wanted to do something for the Hurricane Harvey, then Irma, Maria, then the earthquakes in Mexico. (Doesn’t it feel like we’re being tortured?) I donated to a charity called Save the Children, because Charity Navigator recommended them for all these natural disasters. If you haven’t already, please donate to organizations that are helping these areas recover. You never know when it will be your town that will be hit by something horrible!
Set monthly exercise goals
First, let me tell you about our apartment. I promise it will make sense in the end. We live in an old brick apartment that was built in 1908. It has big windows, hardwood floors, subway tile, built ins… aka all the little bits of character that make John and I swoon.
After the flea infestation was resolved last summer, we realized that our water pressure was really low in our shower. As in, there were times of the day that zero water came out of our shower. Throughout our year and 3 months of living here, we’ve complained, about once a month. Finally, last month our landlord said that they would fix the pipes. What we didn’t know is that they were going to shut off the water 12 hours at a time, almost every day for 2 (now going on 3 weeks). Even when the water was “on”, we got barely a trickle of water coming from our shower and there were days when our kitchen sink had zero water because they broke the pipe. Plus, there was a hole that they had to fix in our guest bedroom wall, plumbers were entering our unit when we weren’t there (and not telling us first) and now we’re supposed to expect another week of intermittent water.
John and I’s exercise goals were to go to the gym 3 times a week. We also set a diet goal of wine twice a week and pasta or rice once a week. Butttt we couldn’t cook. And we couldn’t shower. And there were days when I lost my temper… big time. And John got really frustrated with me for being so angry. There was a breaking point for me where I took myself out to dinner for pasta and wine and relished my little treat. Though I went to the gym at least 2-3 times every week, and had wine 2-4 times a week, and had rice or pasta 1-2 times a week, I still feel like we failed this challenge. It was out of our hands (and my control, ahem) but I think we did the best we could with what was given to us.
Do something special for John once a month
I admit, it sounds a little lame, but I bought John a new interview outfit. I was hoping it would help him get a little extra confidence, but also a fun chance to go shopping together. He ended up finding a great tie, shirt and pants that went together really well and he looked so sharp! John, being John, refused to let me take a picture of him, but hey, he got the job.
Work was extra trying this month and I realized that I needed to learn something, FAST, or it could result in lost opportunities for the company. That being said, I was teaching myself something that I’ve never done before. I’m essentially being asked to fail, over and over, until I don’t fail anymore.
And this isn’t how I work. It’s not even that I don’t like to fail, I just DON’T. So this is tricky, and very stressful for me. Even when I’ve meditated, sometimes it takes a couple times for my mind to quiet. I just keep trying to relax and breath and stretch and take breaks.
Make a new friend
Nope. But I did have an amazing lunch with a good friend that turned into a manicures and shopping trip later in the week. Even though she was going through a stressful time in her life, it was nice to just vent to each other and take some girly time for ourselves!
So September was a trying month. But I’m actually REALLY looking forward to October and November. Sean’s birthday is in October, Gabriel’s is in November, John and I have already decided on his dates for October and November, Seattle Restaurant Week is coming up AND there’s Halloween and Thanksgiving in there!
My thoughts are filled with “what will I wear for Halloween?” and planning our next trip. Plus, we have a whole new diet we need to stick to. I have lots of movies in my Netflix queue and a stack of books to read. I have a lot to look forward to and it’s really exciting!