About 6 months ago I started a recurring post on my previous blog titled “Dear Future Husband” and as each post went up I received more and more negative comments for posting something so “desperate” and “materialistic”. (Though, to be fair, there were a handful of positive comments.) These posts mostly comprised of pictures from tumblr or pintrest that I felt exemplified each point I wanted to make. For example, underneath a picture taken in a museum I wrote, “I hope you will want to go to museums with me.” They usually involved silly things like the Batmobile (as in, I want one), picnics (like, we should go on them all the time), or Halloween costumes (wondering if he’d be up for a Lord of the Rings theme). I did post photos of boys I thought were cute, but usually focused on something I found especially attractive, like a cute sweater or a big nose (oh how I love a man with a big schnoz). These weren’t emotional or revealing posts. However, I was going through a hard time and something that helped me was imagining the life I’m going to have with my future husband someday.
I first want to say that I absolutely believe that there is one man out there, just for me. I also know that not everyone believes this. Maybe you’re incredulous that I would admit to this. Maybe you think I’m naïve or Mormon. I have been single for a ridiculously long time, but I’m not one for casually dating or “hooking up” and I have faith that there’s one man out there, looking for me too. And I can’t wait to meet him and spend the rest of my life him.
I also want to mention that I am NOT obsessed with weddings or finding the “perfect man.” I’m just looking for the man who is perfect for ME. I’m not writing a list of requirements, because that would be silly. And because this isn’t a Katherine Heigl movie. I’m not asking for him to be Tall Rich and Handsome. If I were to have requirements, they might be a bit unorthodox like “Might have a big nose (a la Adrien Brody) and must laugh while watching Parks and Recreation.”
I’m just going to be honest when I say that it gets lonely waiting for your love to come along. It’s crossed my mind to bring back the Future Husband posts… because I liked doing them! I liked using my imagination and I felt that much closer to finding him. I’m not looking on dating sites and I’m not the type of person who can easily meet someone at a bar and connect either. I just wish I could meet him already! I want to see the world with him by my side. I want to eat breakfast across from him every morning. I want to build forts in our living room on snow days. I hope that someday, after I do meet my husband, my best friend and the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, that I can show him the old “husband” posts and he’ll smile. Because he will absolutely want to go hiking and camping. Because he’ll love hanging out in airports with me. Because I’ve already pawned the yard work on him. And because he’s glad that he found me too.